Hand Job Manual

How to give the perfect Hand Job

Sex means more than intercourse; It is also exploring all the
different variations that enhances your sex life and keeps it from
getting stale. Masturbating your partner can be very exciting for both
of you. This is a short exposé on how to masturbate your male partner.
So, read on and learn how to let your fingers do the walking.

Mutual masturbation can be a thrilling experience, but first, we
need to study the basics of manual technique. Most men feel women
aren't skilled at handling penises. Their grips are too limp, lacking
conviction and exuberance. They seem afraid to apply pressure, yet
often pull or tug at inappropriate moments, disrupting the rhythm. They
also have a tendency to scratch. Clearly, we all need to be more
knowledgeable about the proper methods of mutual masturbation. Either
you or your partner can perform the following exercises. But it is
written with an experienced woman in mind.

The first concern is always a matter of size. Is it large or
small? Somewhere in between? No issue has ever received greater
attention than the size of a man's penis. Man's obsession with cock
size is probably a mental vestige of his primitive primate past, but as
far as human sexuality is concerned, it's a waste of time. A large
penis doesn't have any effect on a woman's physical enjoyment unless she
has a deep-seated psychological attachment to well-endowed men.

How about its shape? Is it curved like a boomerang or is it
straight like an arrow? Does your fist fit around the spongy mass of
the shaft? Does your hand completely engulf it? This is good because
you can squeeze it all at once. But don't be an organ grinder. Be
gentle, yet firm. If the penis has an unusual girth, your hand may not
completely encircle it. In such cases, try both hands to insure you
don't miss any of the tender areas while stroking.

Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man
loves to have his penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled,
massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or
disinterested in his crotch. Most men don't even know how sensitive
they really are. Show him that you do.

Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the
fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of
the cock head, swirl around there, then slide back down the other half
and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and
smooth, without bumping or stalling.

Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want
to suddenly lapse into a series of beatings, whackings, jackings and
jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis. These include:
the glans and corona, and the tender part of the bottom side of his
penis.

Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there
flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out.
Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid
of a jar. Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is
super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He
might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but
he's loving every second of it. Now's your chance to be the one who
plows ahead even though he's pleading with you to stop!

After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his
testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging
them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA
eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him
how heavy they feel, how sexy they are. Whatever you do, don't squeeze
them. This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of
the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the
other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the
way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of
his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the
scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis. He will
like the way this feels.

Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in
a makeshift goosehead formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his
erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft
and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your goosehead handhold
over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.

About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its
natural lubricant. Pre-seminal fluid is nature's way of moistening the
canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of
it; it also lubricates the head of the penis. An uncircumcised penis
gathers up this lubricant within the foreskin and keeps the head very
moist and slick. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft. Sometimes, its
musky smell can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both.

If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not
a requirement, and it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time.

In any case a good lubricant will work just as well. Add a drop
of moisturizing lotion to the shaft and gently rub it in. Alexandra
Penney, in her book, "How to Make Love to a Man", is very keen on
massaging the lotion between one's hands before putting it on the penis
because sometimes the cream is cold and the palm-rubbing warms it up.
Any kind of non greasy cream, or lotion is also great to use. Experiment
with different scents, or mix various lubricants together.

If your partner doesn't seem to have a very firm erection, try
using a cinnamon-based ointment which you can find at your local sex
novelty store or acquire through a mail catalog. The slight burning
sensation often causes the penis to become rock-hard. Adding a little
dab to the testicles also helps. If you really want to do a number on
him, slip a dollop of Ben-Gay on his balls and watch him go through the
roof. Another way to gently irritate your lovers' penis is to mix a bit
of mint flavored toothpaste in with whatever lubricant you are using. It
causes a cool, slightly burning sensation that doesn't last too long.
Tastes good too if you want to suck his penis afterwards.

If your partner is uncircumcised, be gentle with his exposed
glans. First, don't try and jerk his foreskin down, but progressively
pull down on the penis shaft skin, so you can see his opening grow
larger. If possible pull the foreskin all the way over the rim of his
glans. The exposed glans of an uncircumcised male can be extremely
sensitive, especially the area around the protruding rim. Lubricate it
well and apply pressure sparingly at first. Later you can increase the
pressure and friction. The small area where the foreskin is attached to
the bottom rim of the glans can be very sensitive. It is also very
susceptive to sexual manipulation.

A final thought on male masturbation : don't forget that he has
more than a penis. Manual manipulation of his genital and anal regions
can give him a great amount of sexual pleasure and excitement. Don't
forget to stroke and play with his testicles, scrotum, anus (inside and
out), perineum (the small mound between his scrotum and anus), his lower
abdomen and buttocks. All these areas can be stroked, squeezed, rubbed
or massaged. We won't go into as great detail as we will with the penis,
however remember that males can also experience a polymorphous
sexuality.

One of the secrets of great manual sex is varying your hand
motions. Here are a few indispensable techniques:

SWITCH HITTER

Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you
develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference.
Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal.
Give it to him good. Get him to the point where he's singing out, "I
second that hand motion!"

DOUBLE WHAMMY

How about going double or nothing. Bring both well-lubricated
hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands.
If your partner's doesn't, then use the other hand to caress and
lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If
both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and
down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball
bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the
directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There's no
doubt that two hands are better than one.

THE ANVIL STROKE

Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top
all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it.
Meanwhile you're bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the
shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name "anvil
stroke." Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat
pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.

THE SHUTTLE COCK

Not many people have heard of the "shuttle cock," but it's one
of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the
sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of
yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between
your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling
it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to
him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive
him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes
messy, but always memorable.


THE BOOKENDS

Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a
pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your
hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant
tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the
trick.

THE FLAME

Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away
from the cock. Pretend you're a campfire girl and start spinning his
pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the home fires
burning for a long time to come.

THE BASE CLUTCH

Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft,
pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an
impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the
skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more
friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.

THE LOVE TUG

As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the whispy strands of
pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don't pull so hard that you
remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler
with delight and awe at your inventiveness.

THE TWO-TIMER

Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and
down.

THE THIGH-SWATTER

Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly
pat his inner thighs.

BEST FIST FORWARD

Place your fist against his perineum as you're stroking him.
He'll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more
space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild. Try working your
other hand down to around his anus and massaging the general area. He
may even want you to insert a finger all the way into his anus. Do this
slowly and gently, but firmly. Try lubricating his asshole first with
either saliva, or preferably a cream or oil.

A-OK

This is a technique to be used on the penis glans. If your
partner is uncircumcised, gently expose his glans by pulling the
foreskin down over the rim of his glans penis. Take your time about
this, as sometimes men have a problem stretching the opening of their
penis skin, wide enough to fully expose their glans. Now place your
thumb and index finger together as if forming an 'A-OK' sign. This is a
manual approximation of a vaginal or anal opening. Push the opening over
the glans of your lover with your other fingers away from his penis.
Stroke up and down his penis, loosening and tightening the pressure
between your thumb and index finger according to his response.

THE UNDERSIDE

This is a technique to be used on uncircumcised cocks. From
under the rim of his glans, push up on your partners' foreskin, bunching
the opening together. Now insert a well lubricated finger into the
opening and massage the underside of his foreskin.

TOYS

There are various sexual aids that you can purchase in any sex
shop. Some of these can readily be used for masturbation. Indeed, many
are especially produced just for that purpose. But just because they are
usually used for solo-sex, it doesn't mean that it might be great to
give them a try when two lovers are together. Here are some types that
can be used. Use a vibrating dildo to stimulate his penis. This can be
combined with anal play if you are both so inclined.
A penis pump is usually sold as a 'penis-developer', something
advertised to increase its' length. Leaving those claims aside this
gadget also produces sensual stimulation of the penis by stretching it
by use of a vacuum in a tube.
There are also various types of artificial vaginas to masturbate
to, but it could be construed as bad taste to use this in a mutual
session. If you want to stimulate a vaginal opening, it might be better
to use the 'A OK' technique.

As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing
that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the
uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your
manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality.